Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. ~Barbara Geraci
If you are like me, you are a tired parent who is trying to do too much, with possibly too little help and too little time for yourself. When things get crazy with kids (and they are going to) do you react out of anger? Are you reacting instead of responding? Perhaps you want your interactions with your kids to be different and better, but you just don’t know how to stop being angry or reacting with anger.
Many of us weren’t raised in a way that taught us how to deal calmly with stressful situations, which can come daily or even hourly with children. Instead we react in the same manner our parents reacted. And while that upbringing may have influenced our subconscious gut reaction to situations, it doesn’t have to remain that way forever. We can change. If you want to do better, you can change. But you need tools and some practice.
I was fortunate to receive the book Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living. Written by April O’Leary, Certified Master Life Coach, author, and speaker, Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living provides great strategies for breaking the cycle of reacting with anger and creating a journey to peaceful living.
April is also the founder of University of Moms, a hub of education, support, and inspiration for women worldwide. Her passion for helping moms is apparent in all her work and especially shows in this book.
Where Are You Now? Angry and Frustrated?
Before any personal growth can happen, you must take an honest look at yourself. If you have a lot of anger and frustration in your life, but haven’t figured out how to deal with it, this might be the book for you. You don’t have to be a mom to read this book; it’s written for women in all walks of life.
What Can You Control? Your Reactions!
I’ve noticed that my big stressor is when I feel out of control in a situation, especially when I am wanting the situation to be different than it is, as is the case many times with the kids. But we can’t always control the outside world or certain circumstances. In Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living, we are challenged to look inside ourselves and change what we can change: our reaction to situations.
This quote from the Dalai Lama is a great way to state this same information:
When you think everything is someone else´s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy. ~Dalai Lama
Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living is written to help you change how you react to situations, thus creating peace.
What’s Inside the Book?
Using the acronym STOP, April shares a strategy that we can use to stop reacting to anger and instead ride the wave to peaceful living. It involves self reflection and some effort, but that is true of any worthwhile outcome. Once you become familiar with the steps in the STOP process, you can be in a calm state in 90 seconds.
S: Slow down
April reminds us that the answers are always within. The book goes deeper into each step in this process, helping you discover ways to SLOW down and ride the wave to peace. You are encouraged to:
- Take care of yourself.
- Be aware of your emotions and reactions.
- Identify your triggers.
- Notice and resolve any unresolved past emotional experiences.
- Take ownership.
- Release judgement.
- Practice acceptance.
Ride the Wave is an easy book to read. The writing style is comfortable and the stories shared were great at illustrating the key points and concepts; it felt like April was talking right to me. The journaling exercises, with self-reflection questions, are key to really getting the most out of the book.
Ride the Wave Tele-Course
As I was reading the book, I also took the corresponding tele-course that April offers. It was an 8-session course by phone, one session per week, and it guides you through the book. I found it very helpful on several areas. First, it kept me accountable and I did more journaling than I might have otherwise. Also, it was great to be able to hear the information directly from the author and to ask her questions as well. The topics in the book are covered in more depth, too. If you are not able to make it to one of the live calls, the sessions are recorded and you can download them later in the day.
You can check her website to see when the next tele-course is scheduled.
April also has a FREE video e-course available at her website University of Moms – check it out!
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Have you read the book? If so, share your thoughts in a comment below!
[Disclosure: I received a review copy of this book from the author. With that being said, the comments and opinions above are purely my own.]
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