I Want to Learn Peaceful Parenting

“There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation in the way we raise our children.”

Marianne Williamson

I am not an expert in peaceful parenting, but I am a passionate learner, trier, and advocate. In peaceful parenting, there is no yelling, hitting, or punishment. There are limits set with empathy, and a true desire to connect to the needs of the child.

A better way to describe peaceful parenting comes from Dr. Laura Markham of AhaParenting, who is my biggest mentor in this field. She relays the importance of regulating yourself first.

Another great definition of peaceful parenting comes from Parenting Beyond Punishment and includes reasons to choose peaceful parenting. Positive Parenting: What, Why, and How, from Positive-Parents.

Positive parenting is not permissive parenting, from Positive-Parents.

“The goal of positive parenting is to raise thoughtful children with a strong sense of what is good and right and the inspiration and self-discipline to reach their highest potential.”

Rebecca Eanes

Basics of What I Believe

All behavior is an attempt to meet a need

Kids are always doing their best to get their needs met

Our job as parents to see the need that is trying to be met, and help our children through the process of meeting that need. I follow the definition of discipline, which means “to teach” (not to punish).

I believe kids can’t learn when they are afraid, which happens with much punishment. We have teachable moments, opportunities for understanding and meeting needs, connection before correction.

Peaceful Parenting Strategies

Kids learn from what we DO more than what we SAY, so I try to model positive behavior in children.

When our kids are having trouble, or what some might call “misbehaving”, I have found it powerful to focus on connection before correction. Often when we truly connect with them, there is no longer a need to correct.

Check Your Focus and Attitude

Even in midst of challenging moments, I can choose to step back and see the bigger picture and see the learning involved – for me. See what I’m talking about when I say I am grateful for tantrums.

There’s always good and always challening, but you get to choose what you see (as in cactus or bluebonnets).

Don’t buy in to the common negative labels that are put on anyone, even young kids who are learning. Join me in my celebration of the two year old.

Be sure the messages on kids’ clothes are positive.

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